Being thankful for singleness can seem like an oxymoron because many singles don’t see a reason to be grateful for it. On the contrary, there are many reasons to be grateful for being single. To start, singleness is a symbol of freedom. Freedom to grow as God allows you, freedom to learn who you are and why God has placed you in singleness. Additionally, singleness is the time to build a relationship with God and delve into the ministry work He has for you. Singleness is a journey filled with so many things to be grateful for and it’s time to get into the habit of showing it. You can journal your thoughts about the freedom God has given, make a list of friendships you’ve forged in singleness, or design a grateful jar and write small notes about how grateful you are to grow in singleness. Whatever you decide to do, be sure each thought of gratefulness brings you closer to God, and stronger in singleness.
Developing habits takes time and commitment. It calls for unwaberign dedication to your goals. Singles, as you move forward in singleness, it is my sincere prayer that you develop healthy habits that will heal your brokenness, heal any bitterness you may be harboring in your heart about being single, and forge habits that will help you embrace it for the gift that it is. Start intentionally planning to reshape your singleness by starting small, and adapting one of the habits listed above. Be patient with yourself, and know that God is with you every step of the way.
As you take this journey, be sure to track and acknowledge your progress in any way you see fit, and remember that it’s okay to start again as many times as you need to. If you find yourself wavering, lean on a solid, spirit-filled group of singles who will hold you accountable and keep you on track. To take things a step further, I suggest creating a healthy habits of singleness vision board where you clearly define what habits you want to release and what habits you want to adopt. If you decide to do this, once it’s created, place it where you can see it daily. This will serve as a reminder for you to stay focused on resetting your singleness with new habits. It will also serve as personal encouragement. As you begin this journey in singleness, carefully and prayerfully stay committed to the goal of creating your single habits to keep you happy, healthy, whole, and prosperous. There is purpose in every season, but you won’t discover it unless you are actively involved in its beauty.
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